So, here I sit in a hotel room in Seoul Korea at 2:16am.  Later today is my daughters pre*op apt then surgery first thing tomorrow (Wednesday).  I’m all alone out here; she doesn’t want her father to know. Neither of my kids have spoken to their father in just about 5 years. He is not that nice of a person and makes it all about him

but I digress,,,,, I’m 100%supportive; this is just so overwhelming and to much for me.  I know this is the right path and this is what she wants to fulfill her journey. She gets upset when I talk about the loss of my son of 19 years.  I do see HER both inside as well as outside.  This surgery will raise her pitch by at least 2.  I didn’t feel her voice was deep to begin with; but this is a choice she has wanted for a few years and is the 2nd step on her journey.  She is fully presenting and now wants to sound like she looks.  Gender reassignment surgery will be in a few years   As for now; she will look and sound like my daughter and go back to school as female

I’m scared    I’m in Korea for this non-evasive vocal surgery.  She won’t be able to talk for a month and then slowly use small sentences and gradually fully converse

I don’t want to seem like the “victim” needing attention and what about me….. I just could use support as well as advice from parents whose kiddo has had vocal surgery   This a non-evasive outpatient surgery. We have medical support if needed when we get back to the US. Surgery is June 26th and a follow up on July 1st, then we head back to the US on the 2nd

Not sure what I’m asking for…. support that it’ll be ok and this is the right decision for her, all will go well ( this place has a 98% success rate), yet I sit here in the hotel room alone and scared. This is about her and not me; but I could use a hug right about now and a hand to hold while she is in surgery