Depression and how to help

[Anonymous]

I have a transgender female age 20 that has been in such a depressive state that it is really starting to scare and worry me.  She is in self-destructive mode at college that she will most likely be kicked out due to failing grades. She is on both HRT’s as well as anti-depressants.  She is sleeping a lot and is always isolating herself; by only wanting to stay home and play games on her computer.

This is killing me as a single mom. Her sister (18) and I are 100% supportive of this transition. The kids father is an ass and is pretty much out of the picture. He is not as supportive and is a controlling, ego-centric and self absorbed individual.

I am all for her taking a LOA from her school for a semester to get her self-worth under control; but I am not sure what to say or how to best be there for her. I’m not in her shoes and can only empathize with her situation.

The support group that is in the area only meets on Sunday’s when I am unavailable to make it due to work schedule. I am honestly at a loss and could really use the support. I am new to the area. I moved out here for her transition (which she has only been on HRT’s for only 9 months). After her first year at college; I felt it was best for me to be her support system and now I feel like I am failing her. I will admit I am enabling by allowing her to just stay home on days off and play games.  Trying to force her out by going out to dinner, dog park, or just about anywhere.

This is killing me to watch her just sleep the days away and destroy her future by failing out of the school she was so very exited to get into.

My heart is broken and I am just about ready to just take her out of school, give notice at both work and the apt and pack up and move somewhere to make a fresh start. But, I know that is not the answer.

My daughter is not willing to fully be female until vocal surgery so she can both sound and look the role.

sigh, ugh, and most of all many tears cried

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