Unsupportive family
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Hello! Excited to be a part of this community.
I have a question that has been an issue and we are having a hard time working through.
Our son (FTM) is 15 and came out to extended family in the winter. He decided he felt safer emailing everyone and provided resources for them to learn about gender and sexuality. We live far away from family. 95% of the family was amazing and positive. We have since seen a lot of my side and they were affirming and loving.
My husband’s parents and aunt and uncle (which is half of his family on that side) had a really horrible reaction. Taking 2 weeks to respond to our son (in an email that was really not okay), getting angry and yelling on the phone when our son decided he wanted to call and reach out after the email.
As a family we decided we would leave them to their own processing until April, when our son decided to reach out and phone them again. It was a quick surface phone call. There has been very, very sporadic contact since then always initiated by us. They sent a birthday card with AKA his birth name on the front address and no gift (which is not typical).
Needless to say our son is very hurt (as are his two siblings and my husband) and now wants to try to reach out again. He left a phone message last night. We could really use some support/suggestions on anyone who has handled close family rejection in the past. My honest opinion is good riddance (there are other issues/passive aggressiveness and emotional issues), but our son has a hole in his heart right now for grandparents who are rejecting him. We want to support him.
Should my husband call and confront them? What kinds of things can he share with them?
Thank you,
Gladys
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